Dating

I haven't dated in so long ... actually, I don't think I've ever really dated. Pathetic much? Is what I can hear Buffy saying. I've been watching Buffy again and of course the first episode mentions the 'd' word. I'm a bit like Willow in that I really don't know what to say to a guy. It shouldn't be that way. I grew up with an older brother. But I didn't get out much as a teenager.

Now that I'm much much older I wonder what is out there for someone my age who isn't really into drinking. The only places where people seem to congregate are bars and well, it doesn't feel like my kind of place. That's the thing about Auckland. It has a great night life, if you like clubbing, which I don't.

I have this friend, who is married now, who used to go out clubbing a lot. She's in her twenties while I'm 30-mumble and I feel like a grandma next to her. My friend would drink. A lot. I guess there's nothing wrong with it, as long as it's not binge drinking. And I don't think she went that far. But she would always go to this one particular club. Occasionally, I would somehow find myself dragged there. It's noisy and it's crowded and the music really isn't to my taste. People go to this club to dance. Which is all very well, if you want to feel like a sardine.

I like dancing. I'm not particularly good at it, but I do like to dance. To music that I can listen to. Music that I can sing along with. I wonder, does that make me a snob? Personally, and oh dear, I can hear Rupert Giles (Buffy again) in my head, saying, "It's not music, it's just noise", the music that they play at these clubs is mostly just screaming or bass which just gives me a headache.

So what are my choices? Join a club? Only what kind of club? Writing? At best, writing is a solitary exercise. You can share it with others, which I do online and I get a lot of pleasure out of seeing someone else enjoy that writing. And I'm not particularly athletic. So no sports club for me.

I remember seeing an item once about a Film Club, although this was in my hometown. I love movies. I don't go often enough for my liking, but discussing, say, Harry Potter and its relationship (or lack thereof) to post-modernism really isn't my cup of tea.

Hmm, this merits investigation. More on this next week.